The Girl With The Five Lads is a Fibromyalgia blog started in 2015. It is all about my daily life with my five sons, our two dogs and our baby tortoise. I write a lot of health and illness, passions, holistic therapies, personal thoughts and our day to day life together.
Saturday, 7 May 2016
My Doctor must think Fibromyalgia is all in my mind!
So many times I read on social media the distress people feel when their doctor suggests a referral to the psychiatric team, antidepressants or counselling. They view this as their doctor thinks their illness is all in their mind.
Please stop doing this! I do understand why as so often within medical situations, things are discussed, decided and implemented without correctly explaining things to you the patient.
Many chronic illnesses are made worse through an exacerbation of symptoms and a flare due to stress, migraine, asthma, psoriasis, rheumatoid arthritis to name but a few.
Fibromyalgia is also affected by stress. It is well documented on many of the well-respected online information pages that this is fact. This is why your doctor makes a referral to mental health pathways.
As a professional Complementary Therapist, I understand the mind does influence the body to complicate illness.
As a woman with Fibromyalgia, chronic migraines, IBS, asthma and psoriasis it gives me an insight deeper than some health professionals.
Firstly, let's dispell any taboos regarding mental health. Make a cup of tea and get comfortable on the couch and have a read.
Many of us with Fibromyalgia go through a period of darkness, I know I did and then I decided to be happy again.
I am not one of them annoying people that think to cure mental health, stress and depression all you need to do is think happy thoughts. If only it was that simple! But I did wake one day and think from now on I am going to explore every option and make a step towards trying to become happy again. With our brains, we can not just press a button and make everything ok.
Many people are unaware they suffer daily with stress and anxiety.
Some people go through life projecting to the world a calm persona yet inside there is an inner conflict, turmoil, sadness, and anger. Think of a duck on the water, we see the duck gracefully glide on the surface yet under water we do not see how hard the little legs paddle to keep afloat.
It is often difficult to know this is hindering your happiness if this has always been normal to you.
After reading the links about stress and anxiety if you feel that maybe this is an area you need to tweak then why deny help to become happy?
Always be true to yourself and be your own advocate.
If a doctor has suggested to you a referral to counselling, antidepressant medication or psychiatric support and this upset you then I fully understand as some never explain their actions. It would be so much nicer for them to say;
"Things outside of your control really may be making your symptoms and pain worse and this is why you are experiencing so many flares. Many people with the same illness as you have found that (insert treatment/medication/therapist) has helped in some way so you deserve the best possible level of care and support you should try this. "
Live in the moment and take charge of your own daily happiness. It is not a sign of weakness in any way to explore this area of care with Fibromyalgia. Just because family and friends may seem to think all you need to do to be happy is go for a walk, pull yourself together, think of others worse off, it is not that easy.
Trust me I have had so many hurtful things said to me about what I should be doing to cure my illness. They say it with love and don't realise the words hurt.
You are beautiful, you deserve to live with happiness and contentment even if you do have a chronic illness.
You deserve to wake up daily and smile.
You deserve to find the beauty and magic of life even on the most painful days.