Saturday, 24 October 2015
Listen to your inner child
"In every adult there lurks a child, an eternal child, something that is always becoming, is never completed and calls for unceasing care, attention and education. That is the part of the human personality which wants to develop and become whole." (Carl Jung)
Do you ever get periods when you feel so lost and empty?
Do you reach out trying to please the emptiness within?
Maybe this is your inner child trying to speak.
Do you ever take time out to play with my inner child? I made friends with mine a while back in a quest for happiness. The inner child is not real of course. Not literally or physically but figuratively, metaphorically real. This is the reason at various unexpected times within our lives we feel so anxious, insecure and afraid. It is how the inner child is feeling. Life programmes us to banish our vulnerable inner child and place them in hiding as we build a protective forcefield around ourselves to become more acceptable within society. It is a coping mechanism to guard us against harm, but the inner child emotions rage within and never become healed.
A clever boffin psychologist called Carl Jung used the child as an archetype (this just means a typical example of a person) to show what all us humans have in common. We all have the ability to self-sabotage it can take many forms within people such as being violent, needy, impetuous, dependency, irresponsible or simply just refusing to be an adult, the "Peter Pan Syndrome," or what Jung and his disciples call a puer or puella complex.
I know I definitely identify with a puella complex at times. I feel suffocated within society and fight hard for independence, freedom, hate boundaries and limits and find most restrictions in life a chore to abide by. Some of these puella qualities such as the free and childlike vitality I do love within my personality. I like to colour outside of the lines, always have. This I never want to change, I simply want to make friends with my inner child as this is one of the key aspects to gain harmony and inner peace.
But often the inner child shouts with confusion, becomes too emotional, this is when I know I need to take time out and make friends with the child within.
Your Inner Child
When you have
Lost your joy
Look for your inner child
Wake her from her
Long scared slumber
Tell her it's safe
And play now
You've got her
In your loving arms
And no one can hurt her
Or leave herAnymore
Want to start on the journey to recover your inner child and give her the love and healing she needs?
A great start is this book by Lucia Capacchione it will give you a firm foundation to obtain a better hold on your emotions, better understanding of your psyche and helps break through all the inner pain, aggression, fear, shame, neediness. You learn to love your inner child like she is your own and you nurture her with care, love and understanding.
This book will lead to many self-discoveries and heal parts of you without social conditioning. As always with the books and therapies I recommend. They are not a one-off experience, you tick a chart within your mind and you are "cured." It will arm you with the tools to practice this daily and grow organically as a happier person from it. There will always be times when you need to refocus and collect all you have read, been taught and recharge your spiritual batteries.
Don't lock books away, read them, practice what they show daily and at times of sadness re-read them, stay quiet and focus.
"Don't forget to love her. The little girl you used to be."