From birth to present the people that you meet leave a part of themselves within you. Like a library of books we have an internal collection of people, some helped us to grow and become who we are whilst others shown us what darkness is, some may have suffocated our spirit, tied a rope around and some fed up negativity in a quest to strangle our soul. They were all still an integral part of who we are.
No way! It was during those times that I truly found the real me.
I always seemed to be on the difficult path like it was my choice at the crossroads to be there. Looking back there was never a choice it was just a road I went on with no options for the easier path.
Buddhism helped me to accept all the people in my life, past relationships and acquaintances with acceptance, admittedly it took time, but I am getting there. Happiness comes from accepting all events with equanimity. Things just are, they don't have to arrive or depart with a good or bad label attached. That was the most powerful three words I had to learn as I was programmed to question everything. Events and people in my life from a small child to now. Accepting "just are/just so" is a great coping mechanism to build up resilience to life’s ups and downs, without needing or wanting to be rescued by another person is liberating.
When you try your best to accept EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING as just so life becomes easier.
I even adopt this approach now to my illness and it is astounding how a new mindset has had such a profound effect on my overall happiness. I recently find myself explaining I am still ill, no difference at all just a lot happier and it is showing in my smile.
I still get moments when my soul recognises another.
Do you get them moments when you feel like you have been reunited with a childhood friend?
Obviously, this is not the case as the person is a complete stranger but our souls do recognise each other. In India, a Sanskrit greeting is still used daily, Namaste. It means "I bow to the God within you" or "The Spirit within me salutes the Spirit in you." It has been somewhat diluted as people get wasted in festivals and come home all full of "Namaste" spouting eternal wisdom after one joint!
If we imagine our growth as a person as building blocks in a tall tower, each block a unit of time as we grow. Any sadness, pain (emotional and physical) trauma causes an imperfection in the block anything from a chunk missing to a chip, regardless of this we continue to grow on top. The imperfections cause an instability within the internal structure and at any unknown time, the blocks will fall.
- an injury
- a viral infection
- giving birth
- having an operation
- the breakdown of a relationship
- being in an abusive relationship
- the death of a loved one
We don't need to tiptoe through life scared of all we meet as our people library is holding us back, embrace every new adventure, we have our own natural resilience it is called love.