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The menopause cave and fibromyalgia

At the beautiful age of forty-six, I am entering the cave called the menopause. It is a strange one for me as I do not really have much family information to go on as most of the women in my family have had pre menopause hysterectomies. This gives me no idea at all of when my Mother entered this phase as she was already on Hormone Therapy (HRT) at my age. I had a hysterectomy in my thirties due to endometriosis but my ovaries were not affected so they remained. They have not bothered me at all since my hysterectomy, they just continue to erupt beautifully each month into a non-existent fallopian tube. They do not even cause any disrupt with Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) now, the last cyst was during pregnancy with my second son twenty-one years ago. I know I am blessed with this, many women continue to suffer beyond surgery.
So what is the menopause?
"The menopause is a natural part of ageing that usually occurs between 45 and 55 years of age, as a woman's oestrogen levels de…
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Finding a balance with medication for Fibromyalgia. (Natural & Pharmaceutical)

I realised very early on that there is no quick fix when trying to find a balance medications for Fibromyalgia. There is no manual for what works best as Fibromyalgia is very much an illness that is different in everyone. It is very much trial and error and a long ongoing journey of discovering what works best for you and your symptoms. 
This is my medication journey, you may find similarities. Please never stop taking any prescribed medication based on my experience or views on it, always seek medical advice. 
If you want to read My Fibromyalgia Story then please do, it may help understand this blog a little better and give a greater depth understanding why I made some of the choices I did. 
A crystal ball would be an asset when you are first diagnosed with Fibromyalgia so you can see how this illness will wax and wane continuously. I never realised this initially, I wrongly presumed that it would be an illness that you could pop a pill and find a balance to regain health. 

Daily, m…

Sunday thoughts from a Fibromyalgia mind #22

Autumn is here and although my body hurts I am still so in love with Autumn. The flimsy summer clothes have been shelved for another year and the jumpers are calling my name. It is a good job I don't really follow fashion as I never really get any wear out of clothes now, I live in pyjamas and hardly go out.
Three weeks into the school term for my youngest boys and this year I don't have to do the school run for the first time in seventeen years! 
This has made such a difference to my day. It is surprising how draining of energy doing the school run was even on my best buddy Speedy. I have not utilised this change well yet so this week is all about rest and finding my balance again.
It is so easy to think you have extra time and a little more energy so you push too far. This week I thought my back would stand the hairdressers, how wrong was I?

Rather than dwell on that hellish Friday I will tell you all about something beautiful. On social media, we form many friendships and …

46 things about me (besides Fibromyalgia)

My birthday was last weekend and I am now the beautiful age of forty-six. I remember in my teens thinking that age was really old, if not ancient. Now I feel differently about it, obviously. 
I have already written a blog 45 things I wish I had known when I was younger so I can not do that again. I enjoy doing this kind of blog as it gives a deeper insight into you as a person.  With this in mind I have come up with a list of forty-six things about me besides Fibromyalgia. I could have gone on to over a hundred as it is such a fun thing to do. 
My favourite cake is carrot cake but the proper stuff with walnuts in, I get so confused by some of the stuff people sell in coffee shops and have the audacity to call it carrot cake.I used to collect vintage tea cups but had to sell them all due to space.My favourite colours are green and pink.My favourite film is Forrest Gump.The most painful thing I have ever endured was childbirth with my last son it was truly horrific.I have been single no…

Sunday thoughts from a Fibromyalgia mind #20

Although today is my birthday I feel there are a million other things to catch up on besides simply sharing my birthday joys so I will do a mid-week blog about the birthday. 
September already has been so full of changes to our family. I am trying to come to terms with each new change and look for the wonderful magic, but they have left me a little emotional. 
Each morning I wave off my youngest two on their walk to school and my heart aches as they both look so old. My Mum always warned me that children grow so fast and like most things I never listened. Being Mum and Dad to these two is an honour, they are funny sons and every day they seem to make me proud. 

Maybe it is being a more mature mother now?  Maybe it is because their father died and I am the sole carer? Maybe it is that fibromyalgia makes me think way too much as I now have the time?
Who knows but I feel their childhood is like a fast running sand in an hourglass and I am helpless to stop its speed. 

I really do need to …

Fibromyalgia Guest Blog Vikki Patis Fibromyalgia and Pilates

Vikki Patis is an avid blogger, book reviewer, and author. By day, she works in the regulatory department for a medical supplies company; by night, she runs The Bandwagon blog, writing about everything from fiction to feminism to fibromyalgia, and writes for a host of sites, including The Mighty and Elephant Journal. Her short story collection, Weltanschauung, is available on Amazon. How I Use Pilates To Help With Fibromyalgia

Followers of my blog, The Bandwagon, will know my journey of coming to terms with having fibromyalgia. I believe that my symptoms started 8 years ago, but I wasn’t formally diagnosed until last May.

In the months preceding my diagnosis, I was at my lowest. I was exhausted, both mentally and physically, and preparing to give up. I considered quitting my job, despite the financial hardship that would follow, and, at one point, I even contemplated suicide. That’s how bad it got. The pain, the fatigue, my constant companions, were dragging me down. I struggled to get…

Fibromyalgia helped me to become fat and happy

Autumn always makes me think and evaluate who I am as a woman. I have never really discovered why I do this during this season but I only assume it is my hippy nature and I like to shed and grow like trees do.
Since Fibromyalgia I have changed. Physically and emotionally I have grown.

Fibromyalgia helped me to become fat and happy and for that, I do feel blessed.
I wrote a blog about Weight gain, dieting and Fibromyalgia back in 2015 and my views on this remain today. Being curvy, chubby and fat is not something to add to the stress and strain of your day. Yes, it is beneficial to health to be within certain parameters but if getting within that range involves for me many factors of life that are detrimental to health such as starving, smoking, stress, depression then give me fat and happy always!
As a woman, I eat healthily, do not drink alcohol, smoke or take drugs so I am proud of who I am and it is nothing to be ashamed of that I have more to cuddle.
Stand in front of the bathroo…